net/mlx5: Fix race for multiple RoCE enable

There are two potential problems with the existing implementation.

1. Enable and disable can race after the atomic operations.
2. If a command fails the refcount is left in an inconsistent state.

Introduce a lock and perform error checking.

Fixes: a6f7d2af ("net/mlx5: Add support for multiple RoCE enable")
Signed-off-by: Daniel Jurgens <danielj@mellanox.com>
Reviewed-by: Parav Pandit <parav@mellanox.com>
Signed-off-by: Leon Romanovsky <leon@kernel.org>
Signed-off-by: Jason Gunthorpe <jgg@mellanox.com>