md: add new helpers to suspend/resume array

Advantages for new apis:
 - reconfig_mutex is not required;
 - the weird logical that suspend array hold 'reconfig_mutex' for
   mddev_check_recovery() to update superblock is not needed;
 - the specail handling, 'pers->prepare_suspend', for raid456 is not
   needed;
 - It's safe to be called at any time once mddev is allocated, and it's
   designed to be used from slow path where array configuration is changed;
 - the new helpers is designed to be called before mddev_lock(), hence
   it support to be interrupted by user as well.

Signed-off-by: Yu Kuai <yukuai3@huawei.com>
Signed-off-by: Song Liu <song@kernel.org>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20231010151958.145896-5-yukuai1@huaweicloud.com