dma-buf: rename and cleanup dma_resv_get_excl v3

When the comment needs to state explicitly that this
doesn't get a reference to the object then the function
is named rather badly.

Rename the function and use rcu_dereference_check(), this
way it can be used from both rcu as well as lock protected
critical sections.

v2: improve kerneldoc as suggested by Daniel
v3: use dma_resv_excl_fence as function name

Signed-off-by: Christian König <christian.koenig@amd.com>
Acked-by: Daniel Vetter <daniel.vetter@ffwll.ch>
Reviewed-by: Jason Ekstrand <jason@jlekstrand.net>
Link: https://patchwork.freedesktop.org/patch/msgid/20210602111714.212426-4-christian.koenig@amd.com