NLM: Shrink the maximum request size of NLM4 requests

NLM version 4 requests estimate the call and reply header sizes rather
conservatively, using the very maximum size allowed in the protocol even
though Linux always uses only a small fraction of the allowable space.

Reduce the size of caller and lock arguments to conserve RPC buffer space
while XDR encoding NLM4 arguments.  Add compile-time checks to ensure the
hostname string won't overflow NLM protocol maximums.

Signed-off-by: Chuck Lever <chuck.lever@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: Trond Myklebust <Trond.Myklebust@netapp.com>