RDMA/ocrdma: Cache recv DB until QP moved to RTR

1) In post recv, don't ring the DB doorbell if the QP is in RTR state.
   Cache the DB calls, until the QP is moved to RTS state.
2) Add max_rd_sge support to dev->attr.
3) Code cleanup in alloc_pd path.

Signed-off-by: Naresh Gottumukkala <bgottumukkala@emulex.com>
Signed-off-by: Roland Dreier <roland@purestorage.com>