net: hns3: refine the process when PF set VF VLAN

Currently, when PF set VF VLAN, it sends notify mailbox to VF
if VF alive. VF stop its traffic, and send request mailbox
to PF, then PF updates VF VLAN. It's a bit complex. If VF is
killed before sending request, PF will not set VF VLAN without
any log.

This patch refines the process, PF can set VF VLAN direclty,
and then notify the VF. If VF is resetting at that time, the
notify may be dropped, so VF should query it after reset finished.

Fixes: 92f11ea1

 ("net: hns3: fix set port based VLAN issue for VF")
Signed-off-by: Jian Shen <shenjian15@huawei.com>
Signed-off-by: Guangbin Huang <huangguangbin2@huawei.com>
Signed-off-by: Jakub Kicinski <kuba@kernel.org>