tuntap: fix possible deadlock when fail to register netdev

Private destructor could be called when register_netdev() fail with
rtnl lock held. This will lead deadlock in tun_free_netdev() who tries
to hold rtnl_lock. Fixing this by switching to use spinlock to
synchronize.

Fixes: 96f84061 ("tun: add eBPF based queue selection method")
Reported-by: Eric Dumazet <eric.dumazet@gmail.com>
Cc: Eric Dumazet <eric.dumazet@gmail.com>
Cc: Willem de Bruijn <willemb@google.com>
Signed-off-by: Jason Wang <jasowang@redhat.com>
Acked-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Eric Dumazet <edumazet@google.com>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>