bpf, sockmap: Add memory accounting so skbs on ingress lists are visible

Move skb->sk assignment out of sk_psock_bpf_run() and into individual
callers. Then we can use proper skb_set_owner_r() call to assign a
sk to a skb. This improves things by also charging the truesize against
the sockets sk_rmem_alloc counter. With this done we get some accounting
in place to ensure the memory associated with skbs on the workqueue are
still being accounted for somewhere. Finally, by using skb_set_owner_r
the destructor is setup so we can just let the normal skb_kfree logic
recover the memory. Combined with previous patch dropping skb_orphan()
we now can recover from memory pressure and maintain accounting.

Note, we will charge the skbs against their originating socket even
if being redirected into another socket. Once the skb completes the
redirect op the kfree_skb will give the memory back. This is important
because if we charged the socket we are redirecting to (like it was
done before this series) the sock_writeable() test could fail because
of the skb trying to be sent is already charged against the socket.

Also TLS case is special. Here we wait until we have decided not to
simply PASS the packet up the stack. In the case where we PASS the
packet up the stack we already have an skb which is accounted for on
the TLS socket context.

For the parser case we continue to just set/clear skb->sk this is
because the skb being used here may be combined with other skbs or
turned into multiple skbs depending on the parser logic. For example
the parser could request a payload length greater than skb->len so
that the strparser needs to collect multiple skbs. At any rate
the final result will be handled in the strparser recv callback.

Fixes: 604326b4 ("bpf, sockmap: convert to generic sk_msg interface")
Signed-off-by: John Fastabend <john.fastabend@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Alexei Starovoitov <ast@kernel.org>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/bpf/160226867513.5692.10579573214635925960.stgit@john-Precision-5820-Tower