drm: Add reference counting to drm_atomic_state

drm_atomic_state has a complicated single owner model that tracks the
single reference from allocation through to destruction on another
thread - or perhaps on a local error path. We can simplify this tracking
by using reference counting (at a cost of a few more atomics). This is
even more beneficial when the lifetime of the state becomes more
convoluted than being passed to a single worker thread for the commit.

v2: Double check !intel atomic_commit functions for missing gets
v3: Update kerneldocs

Signed-off-by: Chris Wilson <chris@chris-wilson.co.uk>
Cc: Daniel Vetter <daniel.vetter@ffwll.ch>
Cc: dri-devel@lists.freedesktop.org
Reviewed-by: Eric Engestrom <eric.engestrom@imgtec.com>
Reviewed-by: Sean Paul <seanpaul@chromium.org>
Signed-off-by: Daniel Vetter <daniel.vetter@ffwll.ch>
Link: http://patchwork.freedesktop.org/patch/msgid/20161014121833.439-27-chris@chris-wilson.co.uk