nfsd: Add reference counting to nfs4_preprocess_confirmed_seqid_op

Ensure that all the callers put the open stateid after use.
Necessary step toward client_mutex removal.

Signed-off-by: Trond Myklebust <trond.myklebust@primarydata.com>
Signed-off-by: J. Bruce Fields <bfields@redhat.com>