md/raid10: avoid deadlock on recovery.

When disk failure happens and the array has a spare drive, resync thread
kicks in and starts to refill the spare. However it may get blocked by
a retry thread that resubmits failed IO to a mirror and itself can get
blocked on a barrier raised by the resync thread.

Acked-by: Nigel Croxon <ncroxon@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Vitaly Mayatskikh <vmayatskikh@digitalocean.com>
Signed-off-by: Song Liu <songliubraving@fb.com>