md: Check MD_RECOVERY_RUNNING as well as ->sync_thread.

A recent change to md started the ->sync_thread from a asynchronously
from a work_queue rather than synchronously.  This means that there
can be a small window between the time when MD_RECOVERY_RUNNING is set
and when ->sync_thread is set.

So code that checks ->sync_thread might now conclude that the thread
has not been started and (because a lock is held) will not be started.
That is no longer the case.

Most of those places are best fixed by testing MD_RECOVERY_RUNNING
as well.  To make this completely reliable, we wake_up(&resync_wait)
after clearing that flag as well as after clearing ->sync_thread.

Other places are better served by flushing the relevant workqueue
to ensure that that if the sync thread was starting, it has now
started.  This is particularly best if we are about to stop the
sync thread.

Fixes: ac05f256


Signed-off-by: NeilBrown <neilb@suse.de>