xfs: refactor inode unlinked pointer update functions

Hoist the functions that update an inode's unlinked pointer updates into
a helper.  No functional changes.

Signed-off-by: Darrick J. Wong <darrick.wong@oracle.com>
Reviewed-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: Brian Foster <bfoster@redhat.com>