isci: kill isci_remote_device_change_state()

Now that "stopping/stopped" are one in the same and signalled by a NULL device
pointer the rest of the device status infrastructure can be removed (->status
and ->state_lock).  The "not ready for i/o state" is replaced with a state
flag, and is evaluated under scic_lock so that we don't see transients from
taking the device reference to submitting the i/o.

This also fixes a potential leakage of can_queue slots in the rare case that
SAS_TASK_ABORTED is set at submission.

Signed-off-by: Dan Williams <dan.j.williams@intel.com>