socket, bpf: fix possible use after free

Starting from linux-4.4, 3WHS no longer takes the listener lock.

Since this time, we might hit a use-after-free in sk_filter_charge(),
if the filter we got in the memcpy() of the listener content
just happened to be replaced by a thread changing listener BPF filter.

To fix this, we need to make sure the filter refcount is not already
zero before incrementing it again.

Fixes: e994b2f0

 ("tcp: do not lock listener to process SYN packets")
Signed-off-by: Eric Dumazet <edumazet@google.com>
Acked-by: Alexei Starovoitov <ast@kernel.org>
Acked-by: Daniel Borkmann <daniel@iogearbox.net>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>