drm/dp_mst: Introduce new refcounting scheme for mstbs and ports

The current way of handling refcounting in the DP MST helpers is really
confusing and probably just plain wrong because it's been hacked up many
times over the years without anyone actually going over the code and
seeing if things could be simplified.

To the best of my understanding, the current scheme works like this:
drm_dp_mst_port and drm_dp_mst_branch both have a single refcount. When
this refcount hits 0 for either of the two, they're removed from the
topology state, but not immediately freed. Both ports and branch devices
will reinitialize their kref once it's hit 0 before actually destroying
themselves. The intended purpose behind this is so that we can avoid
problems like not being able to free a remote payload that might still
be active, due to us having removed all of the port/branch device
structures in memory, as per:

commit 91a25e46 ("drm/dp/mst: deallocate payload on port destruction")

Which may have worked, but then it...