Bluetooth: hci_conn: Use __counted_by() and avoid -Wfamnae warning

Prepare for the coming implementation by GCC and Clang of the
__counted_by attribute. Flexible array members annotated with
__counted_by can have their accesses bounds-checked at run-time
via CONFIG_UBSAN_BOUNDS (for array indexing) and CONFIG_FORTIFY_SOURCE
(for strcpy/memcpy-family functions).

Also, -Wflex-array-member-not-at-end is coming in GCC-14, and we are
getting ready to enable it globally.

So, use the `DEFINE_FLEX()` helper for an on-stack definition of
a flexible structure where the size of the flexible-array member
is known at compile-time, and refactor the rest of the code,
accordingly.

With these changes, fix the following warning:
net/bluetooth/hci_conn.c:669:41: warning: structure containing a
flexible array member is not at the end of another structure
[-Wflex-array-member-not-at-end]

Link: https://github.com/KSPP/linux/issues/202
Signed-off-by: Gustavo A. R. Silva <gustavoars@kernel.org>
Reviewed-by: Kees Cook <keescook@chromium.org>
Signed-off-by: Luiz Augusto von Dentz <luiz.von.dentz@intel.com>