bpfilter: Take advantage of the facilities of struct pid

Instead of relying on the exit_umh cleanup callback use the fact a
struct pid can be tested to see if a process still exists, and that
struct pid has a wait queue that notifies when the process dies.

v1: https://lkml.kernel.org/r/87h7uydlu9.fsf_-_@x220.int.ebiederm.org
v2: https://lkml.kernel.org/r/874kqt4owu.fsf_-_@x220.int.ebiederm.org
Link: https://lkml.kernel.org/r/20200702164140.4468-14-ebiederm@xmission.com


Reviewed-by: Greg Kroah-Hartman <gregkh@linuxfoundation.org>
Acked-by: Alexei Starovoitov <ast@kernel.org>
Tested-by: Alexei Starovoitov <ast@kernel.org>
Signed-off-by: "Eric W. Biederman" <ebiederm@xmission.com>