btrfs: convert btrfs_dio_private->pending_bios to refcount_t

This is really a reference count now, so convert it to refcount_t and
rename it to refs.

Reviewed-by: Nikolay Borisov <nborisov@suse.com>
Reviewed-by: Josef Bacik <josef@toxicpanda.com>
Reviewed-by: Johannes Thumshirn <johannes.thumshirn@wdc.com>
Signed-off-by: Omar Sandoval <osandov@fb.com>
Signed-off-by: David Sterba <dsterba@suse.com>