fs: add FMODE_DIO_PARALLEL_WRITE flag

Some filesystems support multiple threads writing to the same file with
O_DIRECT without requiring exclusive access to it. io_uring can use this
hint to avoid serializing dio writes to this inode, instead allowing them
to run in parallel.

XFS and ext4 both fall into this category, so set the flag for both of
them.

Reviewed-by: Darrick J. Wong <djwong@kernel.org>
Signed-off-by: Jens Axboe <axboe@kernel.dk>