IB/mlx5: Support set qp counter

Support bind a qp with counter. If counter is null then bind the qp to the
default counter. Different QP state has different operation:

- RESET: Set the counter field so that it will take effective during
  RST2INIT change;
- RTS: Issue an RTS2RTS change to update the QP counter;
- Other: Set the counter field and mark the counter_pending flag, when QP
  is moved to RTS state and this flag is set, then issue an RTS2RTS
  modification to update the counter.

Signed-off-by: Mark Zhang <markz@mellanox.com>
Reviewed-by: Majd Dibbiny <majd@mellanox.com>
Acked-by: Saeed Mahameed <saeedm@mellanox.com>
Signed-off-by: Leon Romanovsky <leonro@mellanox.com>
Signed-off-by: Jason Gunthorpe <jgg@mellanox.com>