md/dm-raid: don't call md_reap_sync_thread() directly

Currently md_reap_sync_thread() is called from raid_message() directly
without holding 'reconfig_mutex', this is definitely unsafe because
md_reap_sync_thread() can change many fields that is protected by
'reconfig_mutex'.

However, hold 'reconfig_mutex' here is still problematic because this
will cause deadlock, for example, commit 130443d6 ("md: refactor
idle/frozen_sync_thread() to fix deadlock").

Fix this problem by using stop_sync_thread() to unregister sync_thread,
like md/raid did.

Fixes: be83651f ("DM RAID: Add message/status support for changing sync action")
Cc: stable@vger.kernel.org # v6.7+
Signed-off-by: Yu Kuai <yukuai3@huawei.com>
Signed-off-by: Xiao Ni <xni@redhat.com>
Acked-by: Mike Snitzer <snitzer@kernel.org>
Signed-off-by: Song Liu <song@kernel.org>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20240305072306.2562024-7-yukuai1@huaweicloud.com