wifi: mac80211: add sta link addition/removal

Add the necessary infrastructure, including a new driver
method, to add/remove links to/from a station. To do this,
refactor the link alloc/free a bit, splitting that so we
can do it without linking them, to handle failures better.

Note that a station entry must be created representing an
MLD or a non-MLD STA, it cannot change between the two.
When representing an MLD, the 'deflink' is used for the
first link, which might be removed later, in which case
the memory isn't reused.

Signed-off-by: Johannes Berg <johannes.berg@intel.com>