net/smc: implement DMB-merged operations of loopback-ism

This implements operations related to merging sndbuf with peer DMB in
loopback-ism. The DMB won't be freed until no sndbuf is attached to it.

Signed-off-by: Wen Gu <guwen@linux.alibaba.com>
Reviewed-by: Wenjia Zhang <wenjia@linux.ibm.com>
Reviewed-and-tested-by: Jan Karcher <jaka@linux.ibm.com>
Signed-off-by: Paolo Abeni <pabeni@redhat.com>