bpf: Add bpf_selem_free()

This patch refactors the selem freeing logic into bpf_selem_free().
It is a preparation work for a later patch using
bpf_mem_cache_alloc/free. The other kfree(selem) cases
are also changed to bpf_selem_free(..., reuse_now = true).

Signed-off-by: Martin KaFai Lau <martin.lau@kernel.org>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20230308065936.1550103-10-martin.lau@linux.dev


Signed-off-by: Alexei Starovoitov <ast@kernel.org>