nvme: refactor nvme_queue_rq

This "backports" the structure I've used for the fabrics driver.  It
mostly started out as a cleanup so that I could actually understand
the code, but I think it also qualifies as a micro-optimization due
to the reduced time we hold q_lock and disable interrupts.

Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Signed-off-by: Keith Busch <keith.busch@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Jens Axboe <axboe@fb.com>