iomap: rework unshare flag

Instead of another internal flags namespace inside of buffered-io.c,
just pass a UNSHARE hint in the main iomap flags field.

Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: Darrick J. Wong <djwong@kernel.org>
Signed-off-by: Darrick J. Wong <djwong@kernel.org>