xprtrdma: Rename rpcrdma_conn_upcall

Clean up: Use a function name that is consistent with the RDMA core
API and with other consumers. Because this is a function that is
invoked from outside the rpcrdma.ko module, add an appropriate
documenting comment.

Signed-off-by: Chuck Lever <chuck.lever@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: Anna Schumaker <Anna.Schumaker@Netapp.com>