Btrfs: fix race between using extent maps and merging them

We have a few cases where we allow an extent map that is in an extent map
tree to be merged with other extents in the tree. Such cases include the
unpinning of an extent after the respective ordered extent completed or
after logging an extent during a fast fsync. This can lead to subtle and
dangerous problems because when doing the merge some other task might be
using the same extent map and as consequence see an inconsistent state of
the extent map - for example sees the new length but has seen the old start
offset.

With luck this triggers a BUG_ON(), and not some silent bug, such as the
following one in __do_readpage():

  $ cat -n fs/btrfs/extent_io.c
  3061  static int __do_readpage(struct extent_io_tree *tree,
  3062                           struct page *page,
  (...)
  3127                  em = __get_extent_map(inode, page, pg_offset, cur,
  3128                                        end - cur + 1, get_extent, em_cached);
  3129         ...