SUNRPC: Add a ->free_slot transport callout

Refactor: xprtrdma needs to have better control over when RPCs are
awoken from the backlog queue, so replace xprt_free_slot with a
transport op callout.

Signed-off-by: Chuck Lever <chuck.lever@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: Anna Schumaker <Anna.Schumaker@Netapp.com>