fs: dlm: use spin lock instead of mutex

There is no need to use a mutex in those hot path sections. We change it
to spin lock to serve callbacks more faster by not allowing schedule.
The locked sections will not be locked for a long time.

Signed-off-by: Alexander Aring <aahringo@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: David Teigland <teigland@redhat.com>