libbpf: Change bpf_program__set_extra_flags to bpf_program__set_flags

bpf_program__set_extra_flags has just been introduced so we can still
change it without breaking users.

This new interface is a bit more flexible (for example if someone wants
to clear a flag).

Signed-off-by: Florent Revest <revest@chromium.org>
Signed-off-by: Andrii Nakryiko <andrii@kernel.org>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/bpf/20211119180035.1396139-1-revest@chromium.org