Btrfs: rework outstanding_extents

Right now we do a lot of weird hoops around outstanding_extents in order
to keep the extent count consistent.  This is because we logically
transfer the outstanding_extent count from the initial reservation
through the set_delalloc_bits.  This makes it pretty difficult to get a
handle on how and when we need to mess with outstanding_extents.

Fix this by revamping the rules of how we deal with outstanding_extents.
Now instead everybody that is holding on to a delalloc extent is
required to increase the outstanding extents count for itself.  This
means we'll have something like this

btrfs_delalloc_reserve_metadata	- outstanding_extents = 1
 btrfs_set_extent_delalloc	- outstanding_extents = 2
btrfs_release_delalloc_extents	- outstanding_extents = 1

for an initial file write.  Now take the append write where we extend an
existing delalloc range but still under the maximum extent size

btrfs_delalloc_reserve_metadata - outstanding_extents = 2
  btrfs_set_extent_delalloc
    btrfs_set_bit_hook		- outstanding_extents = 3
    btrfs_merge_extent_hook	- outstanding_extents = 2
btrfs_delalloc_release_extents	- outstanding_extnets = 1

In order to make the ordered extent transition we of course must now
make ordered extents carry their own outstanding_extent reservation, so
for cow_file_range we end up with

btrfs_add_ordered_extent	- outstanding_extents = 2
clear_extent_bit		- outstanding_extents = 1
btrfs_remove_ordered_extent	- outstanding_extents = 0

This makes all manipulations of outstanding_extents much more explicit.
Every successful call to btrfs_delalloc_reserve_metadata _must_ now be
combined with btrfs_release_delalloc_extents, even in the error case, as
that is the only function that actually modifies the
outstanding_extents counter.

The drawback to this is now we are much more likely to have transient
cases where outstanding_extents is much larger than it actually should
be.  This could happen before as we manipulated the delalloc bits, but
now it happens basically at every write.  This may put more pressure on
the ENOSPC flushing code, but I think making this code simpler is worth
the cost.  I have another change coming to mitigate this side-effect
somewhat.

I also added trace points for the counter manipulation.  These were used
by a bpf script I wrote to help track down leak issues.

Signed-off-by: Josef Bacik <jbacik@fb.com>
Signed-off-by: David Sterba <dsterba@suse.com>