netfilter: nat: use keyed locks

no need to serialize on a single lock, we can partition the table and
add/delete in parallel to different slots.
This restores one of the advantages that got lost with the rhlist
revert.

Cc: Ivan Babrou <ibobrik@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Florian Westphal <fw@strlen.de>
Signed-off-by: Pablo Neira Ayuso <pablo@netfilter.org>