io_uring/net: add IORING_ACCEPT_DONTWAIT flag

This allows the caller to perform a non-blocking attempt, similarly to
how recvmsg has MSG_DONTWAIT. If set, and we get -EAGAIN on a connection
attempt, propagate the result to userspace rather than arm poll and
wait for a retry.

Suggested-by: Norman Maurer <norman_maurer@apple.com>
Signed-off-by: Jens Axboe <axboe@kernel.dk>