netfilter: ctnetlink: only assign helpers for matching protocols

Make sure not to assign a helper for a different network or transport
layer protocol to a connection.

Additionally change expectation deletion by helper to compare the name
directly - there might be multiple helper registrations using the same
name, currently one of them is chosen in an unpredictable manner and
only those expectations are removed.

Signed-off-by: Patrick McHardy <kaber@trash.net>