netlink: Re-add locking to netlink_lookup() and seq walker

The synchronize_rcu() in netlink_release() introduces unacceptable
latency. Reintroduce minimal lookup so we can drop the
synchronize_rcu() until socket destruction has been RCUfied.

Cc: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>
Cc: Eric Dumazet <eric.dumazet@gmail.com>
Reported-by: Steinar H. Gunderson <sgunderson@bigfoot.com>
Reported-and-tested-by: Heiko Carstens <heiko.carstens@de.ibm.com>
Signed-off-by: Thomas Graf <tgraf@suug.ch>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>