vxlan: add new fdb alloc and create helpers

- Add new vxlan_fdb_alloc helper
- rename existing vxlan_fdb_create into vxlan_fdb_update:
        because it really creates or updates an existing
        fdb entry
- move new fdb creation into a separate vxlan_fdb_create

Main motivation for this change is to introduce the ability
to decouple vxlan fdb creation and notify, used in a later patch.

Signed-off-by: Roopa Prabhu <roopa@cumulusnetworks.com>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>