net: Add queue state xoff flag for stack

Create separate queue state flags so that either the stack or drivers
can turn on XOFF.  Added a set of functions used in the stack to determine
if a queue is really stopped (either by stack or driver)

Signed-off-by: Tom Herbert <therbert@google.com>
Acked-by: Eric Dumazet <eric.dumazet@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>