net: create device lookup API with reference tracking

New users of dev_get_by_index() and dev_get_by_name() keep
getting added and it would be nice to steer them towards
the APIs with reference tracking.

Add variants of those calls which allocate the reference
tracker and use them in a couple of places.

Signed-off-by: Jakub Kicinski <kuba@kernel.org>
Reviewed-by: Eric Dumazet <edumazet@google.com>
Reviewed-by: David Ahern <dsahern@kernel.org>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>