blk-mq: cleanup and improve list insertion

It's somewhat strange to have a list insertion function that
relies on the fact that the caller has mapped things correctly.
Pass in the hardware queue directly for insertion, which makes
for a much cleaner interface and implementation.

Reviewed-by: Keith Busch <keith.busch@intel.com>
Reviewed-by: Sagi Grimberg <sagi@grimberg.me>
Reviewed-by: Hannes Reinecke <hare@suse.com>
Signed-off-by: Jens Axboe <axboe@kernel.dk>