rds: ib: Remove two ib_modify_qp() calls

For some HCAs, ib_modify_qp() is an expensive operation running
virtualized.

For both the active and passive side, the QP returned by the CM has the
state set to RTS, so no need for this excess RTS -> RTS transition. With
IB Core's ability to set the RNR Retry timer, we use this interface to
shave off another ib_modify_qp().

Fixes: ec16227e ("RDS/IB: Infiniband transport")
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/1617216194-12890-3-git-send-email-haakon.bugge@oracle.com


Signed-off-by: Håkon Bugge <haakon.bugge@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: Jason Gunthorpe <jgg@nvidia.com>