bcachefs: Reduce would_deadlock restarts

We don't have to take locks in any particular ordering - we'll make
forward progress just fine - but if we try to stick to an ordering, it
can help to avoid excessive would_deadlock transaction restarts.

This tweaks the reflink path to take extents btree locks in the right
order.

Signed-off-by: Kent Overstreet <kent.overstreet@linux.dev>