drm/amdgpu: rework TLB flushing

Instead of tracking the VM updates through the dependencies just use a
sequence counter for page table updates which indicates the need to
flush the TLB.

This reduces the need to flush the TLB drastically.

v2: squash in NULL check fix (Christian)

Signed-off-by: Christian König <christian.koenig@amd.com>
Acked-by: Felix Kuehling <Felix.Kuehling@amd.com>
Signed-off-by: Alex Deucher <alexander.deucher@amd.com>