mptcp: strict local address ID selection

The address ID selection for MPJ subflows created in response
to incoming ADD_ADDR option is currently unreliable: it happens
at MPJ socket creation time, when the local address could be
unknown.

Additionally, if the no local endpoint is available for the local
address, a new dummy endpoint is created, confusing the user-land.

This change refactor the code to move the address ID selection inside
the rebuild_header() helper, when the local address eventually
selected by the route lookup is finally known. If the address used
is not mapped by any endpoint - and thus can't be advertised/removed
pick the id 0 instead of allocate a new endpoint.

Signed-off-by: Paolo Abeni <pabeni@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Mat Martineau <mathew.j.martineau@linux.intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Jakub Kicinski <kuba@kernel.org>