io_uring: add helpers to decode the fixed file file_ptr

Remove all the open coded magic on slot->file_ptr by introducing two
helpers that return the file pointer and the flags instead.

Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20230620113235.920399-9-hch@lst.de


Signed-off-by: Jens Axboe <axboe@kernel.dk>