vhost: convert poll work to be vq based

This has the drivers pass in their poll to vq mapping and then converts
the core poll code to use the vq based helpers. In the next patches we
will allow vqs to be handled by different workers, so to allow drivers
to execute operations like queue, stop, flush, etc on specific polls/vqs
we need to know the mappings.

Signed-off-by: Mike Christie <michael.christie@oracle.com>
Message-Id: <20230626232307.97930-8-michael.christie@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>