dm snapshot: fix oversights in optional discard support

__find_snapshots_sharing_cow() should always be used with _origins_lock
held so fix snapshot_io_hints() accordingly.  Also, once a snapshot is
being merged discards must not be allowed -- otherwise incorrect or
duplicate work will be performed.

Fixes: 2e602385 ("dm snapshot: add optional discard support features")
Reported-by: Nikos Tsironis <ntsironis@arrikto.com>
Signed-off-by: Mike Snitzer <snitzer@redhat.com>