cgroup: Prevent double killing of css when enabling threaded cgroup

The test_cgcore_no_internal_process_constraint_on_threads selftest when
running with subsystem controlling noise triggers two warnings:

> [  597.443115] WARNING: CPU: 1 PID: 28167 at kernel/cgroup/cgroup.c:3131 cgroup_apply_control_enable+0xe0/0x3f0
> [  597.443413] WARNING: CPU: 1 PID: 28167 at kernel/cgroup/cgroup.c:3177 cgroup_apply_control_disable+0xa6/0x160

Both stem from a call to cgroup_type_write. The first warning was also
triggered by syzkaller.

When we're switching cgroup to threaded mode shortly after a subsystem
was disabled on it, we can see the respective subsystem css dying there.

The warning in cgroup_apply_control_enable is harmless in this case
since we're not adding new subsys anyway.
The warning in cgroup_apply_control_disable indicates an attempt to kill
css of recently disabled subsystem repeatedly.

The commit prevents these situations by making cgroup_type_write wait
for all dying csses to go away before re-applying subtree controls.
When at it, the locations of WARN_ON_ONCE calls are moved so that
warning is triggered only when we are about to misuse the dying css.

Reported-by:  <syzbot+5493b2a54d31d6aea629@syzkaller.appspotmail.com>
Reported-by: Christian Brauner <christian.brauner@ubuntu.com>
Signed-off-by: Michal Koutný <mkoutny@suse.com>
Signed-off-by: Tejun Heo <tj@kernel.org>