virtio-mem: Big Block Mode (BBM) - safe memory hotunplug

Let's add a safe mechanism to unplug memory, avoiding long/endless loops
when trying to offline memory - similar to in SBM.

Fake-offline all memory (via alloc_contig_range()) before trying to
offline+remove it. Use this mode as default, but allow to enable the other
mode explicitly (which could give better memory hotunplug guarantees in
some environments).

The "unsafe" mode can be enabled e.g., via virtio_mem.bbm_safe_unplug=0
on the cmdline.

Reviewed-by: Wei Yang <richard.weiyang@linux.alibaba.com>
Cc: "Michael S. Tsirkin" <mst@redhat.com>
Cc: Jason Wang <jasowang@redhat.com>
Cc: Pankaj Gupta <pankaj.gupta.linux@gmail.com>
Cc: Michal Hocko <mhocko@kernel.org>
Cc: Oscar Salvador <osalvador@suse.de>
Cc: Wei Yang <richard.weiyang@linux.alibaba.com>
Cc: Andrew Morton <akpm@linux-foundation.org>
Signed-off-by: David Hildenbrand <david@redhat.com>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20201112133815.13332-30-david@redhat.com


Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>